There’s nothing like a face-to-face connection
With the advent of technology such as email, text messaging, Skype, Facebook, etc., it’s easier now to connect with people more than ever.
Modern technology allows us to cross all kinds of physical boundaries to connect with friends and family who may be distant geographically, but are near in our hearts.
However, as great as that is, there’s still nothing more meaningful than a face-to-face connection.
I found out just how true this is a couple weeks ago with a friend that I hadn’t seen in 30 years. His name is Craig.
Craig and I grew up in Tacoma, and when I was a teenager I spent a lot of time hanging out at his house.
His family became like a second family to me, however, after high school, I enlisted in the U.S. Air Force and lost touch with them until about a year ago. It was then that his sister Lisa contacted me on Facebook.
We initially sent a couple messages back and forth just to say hello and to see how life has been treating us, but that was about it.
Then, a couple of weeks ago, Lisa sent me a message on Facebook, asking me to call her mom’s house because there was something serious going on with Craig, but she didn’t elaborate.
When I called I found out the news that nobody ever wants to hear: Craig had cancer, and he only had about six months to live.
My heart was so grieved, and I knew that I needed to make the effort to go see him.
So, that Friday night, my wife and I headed to his mom’s house in Tacoma where Craig was staying. His brother, sister and mom were all there as well.
We spent a little time updating each other on what’s been happening in our lives the last 30 years and talked a little about how he’s dealing with the cancer. However, we spent most of the time just talking about old times and laughing at some of the crazy things we used to do together.
After about two or three hours, it was getting late, and it was time to go. We all hugged as we said goodbye, but I couldn’t help but wonder if it might be the last time I would see my old friend.
A couple days later I received a phone call, and I heard the voice on the other end say, “Jeff Dutra! How’s it going?” You guessed it – it was Craig.
He told me how good it was to see my wife and me, and how much he appreciated us taking the time to come see him, and that he hoped we might be able to stop by again.
I drove away that night feeling really glad that I made the effort to go see him. This whole thing has taught me a valuable lesson about connecting relationally.
As convenient as a phone call or an online connection may be, and at times it may be our only option, there’s nothing more meaningful than a face-to-face connection.